Before I came into the sex work industry I had my thoughts and judgements on what this world was and how it operated. I started my journey into this industry in 2016 when sites were still thriving, the sex work market was extremely saturated and things like seeking arrangement were going main stream. I came in thinking this world couldn’t possibly be real and if it was it was a female dominated powerful sexually empowering movement. When I was introduced to things like TER and ECCIE I was confused for a lack of better words. My thought was that clients hired us to showcase our skills not dictate them. The stereotype I had of this scenario in my mind was a provider being hired and being able to not necessarily control a session but come in with a comfort to do what they do best to make sure the client was satisfied. After seeing the scoring system of TER and personally dealing with clients who expected me to do the same things for everyone I was sorely disappointed in the fact that I wasn’t getting a chance to show off MY SKILLS without the expectation of a checklist. When TER went down and I started seeing more clients break away from this mindset and it changed how I was able to do business. I find myself retaining a better base clientele longer because the expectations of a list of acronyms was lifted. Of course I run into the occasional super hobbyists but now I don’t even feel an annoyance for them I feel almost a sadness. One of the perks of my job is that I never have the same day twice meaning even if I see the same people over and over every interaction is different. That’s the joy of having a spicy sex life right? Not expecting the same things over and over but letting the chemistry of the moment take over and letting the professional you hire do their job to the best of their ability. Am I saying forgo your needs? No communicate them with the provider you hire but let go of the expectations of a list of acronyms and you may enjoy your sessions more than you expect. Thank you to the clients who have let me freely express myself in our sessions. I am on this journey exploring my sexuality along with everyone else and allowing me to showcase what I’m amazing at always works out in everyone’s favor.